THOMAS FARINO: The Gift of
Thomas Farino was the rock on which his wife, Mary, built
her life. He was the baby in a family of six boys, sons
of a New York City policeman. He was captain of Engine
Company 26 in Manhattan, doing a job he loved. He was
posthumously promoted to battalion chief.
"I never knew anyone who woke up in the morning happy
to go to work," said Mrs. Farino. And his schedule
allowed for a lot of family time. For their children,
Jane, 10 and James, 6, it was like having another mother
-- "five out of seven days they'd have Daddy at
"I'm not making it a fairy tale, everyone has good
times and bad times," she said. But the good times were
rolling recently Ð a new house, the fourth trip to
Disney World. "He was the most content person I've ever
met," Mrs. Farino said.
Throughout their 20 years together, she said, he would
tell her: "Love me all you want, want me all you want,
but don't need me so much. You have to get your strength
from someone higher than me."
After the attack, she thought: "Wow, this is what he
was talking about. It was a gift he gave me by telling me
I'm stronger than I think Ð I know how happy he would
feel to know that I believe I am stronger."